Happy Sunday readers!
I thought today I'd talk a little bit about my experience moving out for my first time. I've been living in an apartment on my own for seven months now, and I've loved every second of it! That being said, there have been a couple of obstacles here and there.
I loved living at home. My parents and I have an amazing relationship, my mom still did my laundry (she still tries to...I think she genuinely likes doing my laundry...it's a mom thing I guess?), FREE FOOD. Living at home is amazing, honestly don't take advantage of that shit.
However, there was a large part of me that was dying to get out on my own. I was starting to resent my parents for all of the amazing things they did (and still do) for me, and I knew that wasn't fair. Because your parents just love you, as much as sometimes you translate that as being the most annoying thing that's ever happened to you (reality check, it isn't at all).
But there are moments looking back that I wish I had stayed home for a few more months, saved a bit more money, and thought a lot longer about how I wanted to make this first initial move.
When I have those moments I'm also really happy I chose to do apartment living before making a serious adulting move and buying property. This is just my opinion, but I've found navigating the waters of first time bill paying, being responsible for my own groceries, my own laundry, cleaning, has been a little bit easier without the added stresses of being a home owner.
One of my first pieces of advice is to HIRE MOVERS. Honestly, unless you have a really manly group of guy friends (...if so feel free to like I dunno give me a call?) that can help you with their trucks and muscles, hiring movers was the best decision we made. Initially i was like, "no I don't want to do that blah blah blah) but my mom insisted.
MAN WAS SHE RIGHT. (like always...)
We hired movers primarily for all of my large furniture (bed, dresser, etc) however, it was also so so helpful to have them to move all of my boxes into my apartment as well so we could focus on unpacking. They were SO fast, and in the end I was really grateful we had them to really speed up the entire process.
Secondly, if you are considering moving out in the next year, start buying stuff now. Because I'm a crazy person, I started buying stuff probably my first year of university. I can't tell you how much it helped to already have small things that you don't even really think about already purchased to reduce costs. Dish towels, a garbage can (which I made the worst purchase ever on this, make sure you actually invest in a good garbage can, it makes a huge difference in your kitchen/smell of your living space), cutlery, wine glasses, the list goes on and on.
THESE THINGS ADD UP. Honestly, you don't realize how many little things you need until you are on your own, and buying some in advance leading up to the big move out will really help.
Usually you have about a month or so between actually finding an apartment and moving in. I had a couple of months because my apartment was completely gutted and redone before I moved in. But I spent this time buying the big stuff (couch, coffee table, rug, side tables, etc.).
This is the stuff I do not recommend you purchase in advance. You have no idea what your space will look like until you actually have it, so once it's official, that's the time to get the big items. That being said, make sure you have some cash laid aside for this, cause side tables are hella expensive.
Finally, don't be afraid to ask for help, and do not say no to help. I can be really stubborn (see a few paragraphs up when I thought I didn't need movers...), and a lot of time feel bad asking or accepting help. THIS IS THE PRIME TIME TO ACCEPT HELP. You will need as many friends are willing to help you unpack boxes, hang a gallery wall, build IKEA furniture, you get it. Buy some beer, order some pizza, and have a move in party!
And those are a few things I have to say about my experience moving out for the first time! Obviously, everyone is different, and I'm sure I'll learn a lot on my next move too. I'll keep you posted when that happens.
Happy Pride Readers! Enjoy your Sunday.